noun com·mit·ment \kə-ˈmit-mənt\
: a promise to do or give something
: a promise to be loyal to someone or something
: the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support something
We have just started marching band for the year, completed band camp, and are ready to start perfecting the show and developing the skills to perform.
The real frustration that we have at this point are the students who told us they wanted to participate, filled out the paperwork, paid the fees, showed up and started the process, had positions written for them in the show, and now are telling us that they are quitting. It really isn't fair to the rest of the group to leave us with a gap created by someone who made a commitment, then backed out after the process started.
We all are faced with situations where we might be uncomfortable or feel like we have bitten off a bit more than we can chew. Successful people learn to work through this, learn from it, and move on. They complete the task at hand, no matter how difficult, and then make a conscious and educated decision whether or not to continue the activity. We have no problem with those who try the activity for a season and decide that it just isn't for them. We do become frustrated, however, when someone drops out after the activity begins. All the planning, all the preparation, all the instruction given for that student is wasted. All the other students then are affected by having a space in the performances that cannot be filled.
It has happened to us for the past several years...get ready, anticipate and design for 135 members...and have 130 show up...then have 3 quit early on in the process. We then perform with 8 holes in every show. We are rated lower by evaluators due to an incomplete product. The students on either side of the empty space struggle to compensate. It simply isn't fair.
PLEASE be sincere and honest when you make a commitment to a performing group of any kind. If you say you're in, then follow through and be in for the season. You will never learn how to work through adversity and hardship by quitting....and you only end up letting others down.